It has been a long time since I had the time to write. Lately i witnessed someone close to me go through a phase of disillusionment. It is a sad thing to have to see that but many times it is a blessing in disguise.
Disillusionment is a process when someone finds out that what he was believing in so much to the truth, unshakeable, is not true and is fickle. It could happen to anyone over any thing. Disillusionment is not always bad nor is it always good.
How pitiful it is when a boy is disillusioned about his girlfriend. Worse is when a wife or husband is disillusioned by the spouse. Still worse is when a parent is disillusioned by his/her child. Worst might me when it is vice versa and the child is disillusioned by the parents.
Everything is an illusion. For some the illusion will hold for until the end of his life. For others it will shatter sooner. Yet for others it will keep breaking again and again. For example a woman who is deserted by a husband, mistreated by her child. Everyone could be disillusioned about life in this way.
Then there are the positive disillusionment. This person i was talking about was disillusioned by her current company. She earlier had thought it will be forever. But now she realizes it won’t take care of her as thought. It is bad for the company that will lose a strong morale. For the person it is an awakening to a belated new life.
Some people are too easily disillusioned. Most people in my state would be disillusioned about writing as it is not producing any results for all these years. But i accept to live with the illusion that one day i will be a renowned writer going on international book tours. So what if it never comes true? No matter what , i can’t be disillusioned over this.
I have experienced disillusionment early in my career thinking i had a permanent job with a company. Yes, i was not reminded i had to move on. After that i decided that i will never again suffer this painful feeling of disillusionment. That is a big reason why i am a freelancer. I can’t be disillusioned from this because everyday i wake to joblessness and i have adapted.
So to all those who are going through disillusionment, remember it might be your fault, it might not be, it might be for the better or for the worse. However, learn not to take the blow personally. Remember it is the karmic wheel.
