Visualize this: a man is wounded by splinters of glass that have gone through his skin causing pain and bleeding. It happened in an incident and truly no one was responsible. It was unintentional on the part of all.
This man goes in a quiet place after the incident was got all these splinters out of him.
Then this person comes and claiming to solve the problem asks the man to remove the splinters that he was going to remove any way but at a slower pace, immediately.
The hurt man trusting the person had common sense, did so.
Suddenly the person claiming to solve the problem, takes those splinters and starts stabbing himself.
Then he says, your splinters hurt me, and I’m going. Then that person is gone leaving the hurt person dumb founded. Now he is suffering from the old wounds and the new ones thrown by the person upon leaving.
this seems absurd in the physical realm but many of us are guilty of such madness in the world of communication.
My suggestions to all is that, this is more common than we think. Let’s not make hell on earth. At least we should all learn some basics of counseling.
