Once upon a time when I used to go dating

May 6, 2012
5 min read

It’s been ten years I sat down with a woman and talked on a date. Marriage, child, prestigious career don’t give one such allowances as losing oneself in the communication with a woman on an intimate level. More than my incapacity it is also the great barrier my position holds for anyone even trying to come close.

I remember dating women. It was long long time back. The innocent revelry, the unhindered laughters, the gaze into the eyes as though they held some kind of treasure, the harmony of enjoying the moment, the unconditional support, the unquestioned interest on any thing she said, the converging of energy, the feeling of one ness in the ghast ness of the loneliness of bachelor hood, the walking together as though on a cloud.  It was as if time stopped. It was just a dinner but after coming back home from a date, more than your tummy was filled.

All the women I dated, all had treasure in their eyes. I wish I could tell them how I am grateful to have dated them. But like all young men, I was unstable, irresponsible, careless and left early in the relationships so as to explore the next.  But that’s the way it was to be. Otherwise how would I have arrived at my wife?

But I miss all my dates. 

It was like being a prince, waiting for the princess.

It was so laid back.

Yes, I was always a great date. What did you think? I was on my way to be the masterful counselor, I am today.

But those days will never come back. they can’t, they shouldn’t, they don’t have to. I’ve had my fair share of the romances allowed to man.

Today after ten years this lady dared to open up as though they do in a date. It just reminded me all my dating life. It was short conversation and it was business as usual.

Success is an expensive price to pay. I’m glad I bought success only after I completed all chapters such as dating.

If you were one of the girls I dated or tried to date, I just want to say, that I’m immensely grateful to your grace that blessed my life. You were part of a big puzzle that is my life that I am trying still to complete. Then I want to say how sorry for having been such a jerk at the end. But as I said earlier, I was reckless and young. but may be it was never meant to be. My destiny waited for me to meet the woman who would be my wife. Some girls I dated turned out sour but even though at that time I might have been angry, later I realized they came into my life to teach me something. they taught and left. to them also I’m thankful. 

I guess after ten years of marriage, man becomes wiser.

Conflicting modification on 5 May 2012:

It’s been ten years I sat down with a woman and talked on a date. Marriage, child, prestigious career don’t give one such allowances as losing oneself in the communication with a woman on an intimate level. More than my incapacity it is also the great barrier my position holds for anyone even trying to come close.

I remember dating women. It was long long time back. The innocent revelry, the unhindered laughters, the gaze into the eyes as though they held some kind of treasure, the harmony of enjoying the moment, the unconditional support, the unquestioned interest on any thing she said, the converging of energy, the feeling of one ness in the ghast ness of the loneliness of bachelor hood, the walking together as though on a cloud.  It was as if time stopped. It was just a dinner but after coming back home from a date, more than your tummy was filled.

All the women I dated, all had treasure in their eyes. I wish I could tell them how I am grateful to have dated them. But like all young men, I was unstable, irresponsible, careless and left early in the relationships so as to explore the next.  But that’s the way it was to be. Otherwise how would I have arrived at my wife?

But I miss all my dates. 

It was like being a prince, waiting for the princess.

It was so laid back.

Yes, I was always a great date. What did you think? I was on my way to be the masterful counselor, I am today.

But those days will never come back. they can’t, they shouldn’t, they don’t have to. I’ve had my fair share of the romances allowed to man.

Today after ten years this lady dared to open up as though they do in a date. It just reminded me all my dating life. It was short conversation and it was business as usual.

Success is an expensive price to pay. I’m glad I bought success only after I completed all chapters such as dating.

If you were one of the girls I dated or tried to date, I just want to say, that I’m immensely grateful to your grace that blessed my life. You were part of a big puzzle that is my life that I am trying still to complete. Then I want to say how sorry for having been such a jerk at the end. But as I said earlier, I was reckless and young. but may be it was never meant to be. My destiny waited for me to meet the woman who would be my wife. Some girls I dated turned out sour but even though at that time I might have been angry, later I realized they came into my life to teach me something. they taught and left. to them also I’m thankful. 

I guess after ten years of marriage, man becomes wiser.