We all have some scars at the emotional level. But we are unwise and Dont leave them alone to heal. Instead we remember them, replay them and Cause the scars to aggravate.
Dealing with scars or wounds is a messy work. if there are some things in that wound needing to be removed then just leaving it there will create problem. One must thus clean it up. So at first you have to play the wound. But then a time comes when you have to leave it at rest.
Its a bit complicated at first but with experience one get used to it. It becomes an art that one can master.
This is emotional intelligence of high degree.
