Don’t Not Give…

It seems to be absurd to say what I am about to say but it must be said.  In every woman, no matter how noble she is, there is a prostitute.  And reciprocally in every man, no matter how noble he is there is a patron. 

It is not new.  Prostitutes have been used as archetypes to describe women.  Alternatively they could be mothers, guardians, career women. 

I did not believe it myself.  But i am sharing this very private incident because i know it will help many marriages in doldrums to recover. 

Recently my wife and I, went through a rift.  It became so big i could not stay in the same room.  This is due to aura.  Anyways.  Things got from bad to worse. 

My mother got involved when my spouse out of anger left the house.  Then she asked me, “Son you have been earning so much.  HAve you given her any money?”

I thought to myself.  What type of question is that?  Sure i have pay the bills but she is working woman.  She spends all her time in the office.  why should i give her any money other that for all the bills?  She has more money than she needs. 

I did not think it was serious but i thought i should give it a try.  I’d do anything to close this rift and restore happiness.  So i wrote her a big cheque for Dashain, a ceremony in which elders bless juniors. 

Guess what?  All her anger was gone and happiness is restored. 

I am the big shot consultant and here is my mother’s advice that i did not even believe that saved me from miseries. 

After that touching her felt like a million bucks. 

It was not because i was greedy i did not give her the money but because i thought she would feel insulted since she is earning herself.  But also i must confess it was because i thought she did not give me any time so why should i give her gifts.  Yes it is childish.  I don’t refute this accusations.  We all learn from our mistakes. 

In the end, my mother’s advice, opened me to a whole new world of understanding. 

Many problems have their roots in unimaginable places.  I guess even my wife did not know that it was my apparent greediness that made her so mad at me. 

Life!!!