Adapting to change: new role of father

It is a tough job being a father in the 21st century.  Paradigms have shifted and many times it is not in the favor of your ego. 

 

When i was a child, as i grew up, it was taken for granted that raising children was the mother’s job and that the husband would go to work.  But now with more and more women not only getting jobs but holding long lasting careers, everything has gone haywire. 

 

My mother also was working but before it was a joint family and the grandparents were young.  Now there is no one home and the grandparents are old and themselves occupied in the pursuit of their own meaning outside home. 

 

Who is going to sacrifice his career in a couple to raise the kid, is and is becoming a bigger and bigger question. 

 

However this questions needs to answered and many couples not wanting to answer this question simply don’t have babies. 

 

However, i myself think that men and women should think about making careers that will able to integrate their time as baby-sitting parents.  I mean the time spent looking after the baby should count in the chances for you to get better opportunities. 

 

Imagine that in your Cv you said i house sat my baby for 2 years.  Would it increase your chances to get a job or decrease it? 

 

No i am not kidding. 

 

Of course in the present context you will be shown the door.  But if you follow my tips you will be welcome and given even greater opportunities:

1.  When taking care of the baby don’t think it is degrading or that it is a waste of your talent.  Instead think that this experience will add value to your life as well as career. 

2.  Think of the baby walking and playing outside as the reflection of the creativity inside of you. 

3.  When you look at your watch and see that so much time lapsed just baby sitting, think of the opportunity cost.  Because if you don’t engage in this calculation the residual thought will haunt you.  Then just accept that you had been the most expensive nanny in town if not the world.  And it is ok, isn’t it?  Don’t you want to give your child the best?  Does best only means what you buy in the shops?  No it also means your time.

4.  Smile profusely.  You can’t get upset at a baby too long.  My baby has the best smile in the world.  I’m going to make him a motivator like me, i hope!  His got the face!!  Anyways.  Smile.

5.  Juggling a baby, work, a spouse, parents, a house, assets can be a hard.  When you do all this you get rooted into the fundamentals of teamwork.  You are good at somehting and your wife is good at another thing.  You are weak at one thing, and you wife another thing.  Just combine them and make a winning team: that produces happiness and success to all. 

6.  Don’t look at your time baby sitting as a burden but as a luxury.  In this way you will able to look at the most difficult jobs as luxuries.

7.  Taking care of a baby increases your compassion level.  This is very good for leading and selling the 21^st century where people have been conned enough to follow and to be sold through manipulative ways. 

8.  Take is an opportunity to be with your child; you will learn to cherish moments; this will help y you cherish moments with your clients.

9.  Remember that we are all reflection of the perfection of god be in the form of mother, father, husband, wife, provider.  Being with your child you should try to become a bigger and bigger percentage of the perfection we are meant to be.  The perfect CEO can’t be without being the perfect father.  Even if it was it would incomplete and only appear so. 

10.  Baby sitting is even more reflective that being at the beach or on top of a mountain.  Just learn to see the picture perfect. 

Well they were 10 tips to make best use of the new realities of being a father in the 21st century.