Jealousy is rampant but few people know they are jealous & still fewer know the effects of this tumultuous feeling.
I hate scrolling on facebook & linkedin despite being hooked by the notification alerts. It is there that all the people I know or I’m supposed to know, post, like & comment. The pictures that show they are successful & happy: secrete cortisol or a negative & ugly feeling related to jealousy. It takes me down into a rabbit hole of comparison, inadequacy, doom & an uncooked determination to get ahead in the rat-race of one-upmanship.
l am wise. I recognize I am “jealous”. I then immediately stop scrolling, shut the app & get back to my reality: simple, slow, predictable, stable. I recognize that the posts that triggered the “jealousy cortisol”, are just highly curated facade of a reality that doesn’t exist for the one posting. They just need the serotonin reward gotten from the admiration of others. But their joy comes more from jealousy of others than admiration.
None-the-less the likes & boot licking comments, can’t differentiate jealousy from admiration or cunningness for material gain from the one posting.
I dont want to imagine the sinkhole these jealousy creators & jealousy consumers, are in. All I know from tasting the jealousy cortisol once in a while, is that they must be highly miserable. But like the proverbial fish, they would not know a world without water, or jealousy.
so for me I always to stay away from the oceans of jealous waters. But I go scuba diving with full gear & oxygen, to see the beautiful & extravagant jealous-sea-life.
