Once upon a time when I used to go dating
It’s been ten years I sat down with a woman and talked on a date. Marriage, child, prestigious career don’t give one such allowances as losing oneself in the communication with a woman on an intimate level. More than my incapacity it is also the great barrier my position holds for anyone even trying to…
Vibration of gratitude: my success
I’ve had so much success that I run away before getting the applauses and standing ovation. It’s almost embarrassing for me. It’s a culture thing. what I prefer is the rhythm of the heart of all the participants. When my show is over the vibration emanating is what I enjoy more than the physical expression…
My job is to transform people
I get get surprised in workshops because by now I thought I knew it all when it came about out guessing people who come in to learn from me. As a professional trainer, this skill and attitude gets you success. But this workshop was different. I was told the participants were big shots. But inside…
Ladies and heels
What’s with ladies and heels? Would a similar effect occur to men? Frankly it would be weird to see a man walking sexily due to the fact that he was to walk on heels. So what’s happening here? What’s with heels? Simply is the differential way of walking that it requires. She can’t run, her…
To be nice or nasty?
It’s difficult to treat people differently. For example being nice to one person then immediately being nasty to someone else. As leaders this is necessary you would say. You have to be nice to the customer otherwise they’ll shop somewhere else but you have to be nasty to your staffs otherwise they’ll not obey you….
Don’t abuse your authority by mistreating people
The position of leader is tricky. You must scold, challenge, make unpopular decisions, deny others, stop people, push them. There is no choice. If you don’t do all these as a leader you’ll have nothing to lead. But the point is not to do these negative actions to such extent that your most talented followers…
No one to blame
Life holds lots of bad surprises for us. It can be accidents, failures, bad relationships, diseases. All except death, they are opportunities given by god, the higher self or your own thought generated strongly this life or earlier. Many times we blame the secretary who tells us we are fired. But she is just the…
The worst counseling error analogy
Visualize this: a man is wounded by splinters of glass that have gone through his skin causing pain and bleeding. It happened in an incident and truly no one was responsible. It was unintentional on the part of all. This man goes in a quiet place after the incident was got all these splinters out…
Let’s not put book stores out of business
world of books is one that I love to escape into. I wonder how life would have been without books. I can’t imagine that life. I could meet the greatest writers personally and spend the day with them but learning a fraction of all they wrote in the books. At one time, I thought the…
The wise father
Being a father is a real test of humanity. The ungrateful yet highly dependent baby, takes everything a man has, yet the father gives. My father did the same for me. So did his father and back to the origin of human life. Time, testosterone and money are lost. But relationship with the spouse is…